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Aug 2024
20m 46s

Is Holding Your Child Accountable Truly ...

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode

Imagine this: Your child has just knocked over their sibling's Lego creation, and you’re torn between wanting to gently correct their behavior and wondering if there’s a better way. Is it really about making them say, "I'm sorry," or is there a deeper lesson to be learned?


In this episode, I share a more nuanced concept of accountability in parenting. We explore the common desire to hold our children accountable for their actions—whether it's making them apologize or ensuring they understand the consequences of their behavior. But what does "accountability" really mean in a connected parenting approach? I challenge the traditional views and offer insight into how we can foster true responsibility in our children without resorting to shame or force.


In This Episode:

  • Redefining accountability in parenting
  • Encouraging children to internalize lessons
  • Balancing empathy with discipline
  • Avoiding shame while teaching responsibility
  • The impact of connected parenting on long-term behavior


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