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Oct 2021
13m 8s

What Changes a Child’s Behavior

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode
We parents have been taught that our children’s behavior must be corrected through punishments and manipulations, and sadly, this has been accepted as the default mode of parenting. And when compounding other stressors in lives, it becomes so easy to unconsciously fall back on that out of desperation to change their behavior. So I want to talk about where we ... Show More
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