We parents have been taught that our children’s behavior must be corrected through punishments and manipulations, and sadly, this has been accepted as the default mode of parenting. And when compounding other stressors in lives, it becomes so easy to unconsciously fall back on that out of desperation to change their behavior.
So I want to talk about where we ... Show More
Today
Stop Saying "We Can't Afford It"
You're at the checkout, almost done, and your child grabs something and asks, "Can we get this?" And four words come out before you've even thought about them: "We can't afford it." It feels honest. Responsible, even. Like you're teaching them the value of money. Most of us say i ... Show More
16m 10s
Sep 1
There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Parent
When you lie awake at night, what do you replay? Not the hundred things you got right that day. Not the lunches, the drop-offs, the bedtime story you were too tired to read but read anyway. You replay the one moment you lost it. The snap. The raised voice. The look on their face. ... Show More
20m 13s
Oct 2025
The Discipline Reframe Every Parent Needs: Teach Don’t Punish
If you’ve ever wondered why traditional discipline like timeouts, threats, punishments feel off or doesn’t actually work, this episode will change the way you see toddler behavior. I’m joined by Devon Kuntzman, toddler expert and founder of Transforming Toddlerhood, to talk about ... Show More
42m 13s
May 2024
213: How to stop using power over your child (and still get things done)
Ditch Punishments and Rewards for Respectful Parenting Do you hate punishing (with Time Outs, withdrawing privileges, or even yelling at) your child? Do you feel guilty after you punish them, wishing there was a way to just get them to listen? And do bribes ("If you brush your te ... Show More
1h 2m
Sep 2025
The Science of How Discipline and Punishment Impact a Child’s Brain Differently
Send us Fan MailParents, this one is big.Today we’re breaking down punishment vs discipline, what science says, how it impacts your child’s brain, and why so many of us feel stuck in the cycle of punishing even when we don’t want to.If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to yell, ... Show More
29m 21s
Sep 2025
How to connect with a child that shuts you down (without losing your cool)
Send us Fan MailThis episode will change how you see your child’s moods and how you respond to them.If you’ve ever tiptoed around your child in the morning, worried the “wrong” cereal bowl or shirt will set off a meltdown, this conversation is for you.Joining me is Dr. Alex Reed, ... Show More
1h 8m
Feb 2020
Ep 106 - Parenting Struggle: How to Start Having a Less Stressful Relationship with Your Child
<p>Parenting, while it is a beautiful gift, can test the limits of ourselves. If we don't know how to manage the stress that our child's behavior can bring, we can create some serious short and long-term relationships with ourself and our child. Yes....it needs to be addres ... Show More
16m 10s
Jul 2021
S02|10 - How to Get Your Kids to Listen
We often think that the only way to get our kids to listen is to use threats, bribes or punishments. Those actually decrease natural obedience over time. There is another way to do it, tune in to find out how. Yelling, threats and bribes really do seem to work in a pinch- kids ty ... Show More
16m 39s