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Nov 2021
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#263: Why Is My Child's Behavior Not Get...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
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Sometimes we think we are following the steps to fix problem behaviors, when we might actually be unknowingly doing the opposite. Erin shares some great foundational information to troubleshoot any problem area. If you are seeing repeated behaviors you don't like to see, and want to figure out how to get it to stop, this episode can help you figure out the sticky area. Then Erin applies this information to a mom dealing with very difficult power struggles at bedtime.



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