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Mar 2024

34m 27s

#133: 4 Common Misconceptions About Avoi...

About this episode

In this week's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're exploring some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is frequently misunderstood and misrepresented in a lot of online content, and it's so important to me to dispel some of those portrayals and offer something more humanising and more honest about what's going on for avoidant folks.

We cover misconceptions around:

avoidant people not wanting to be in relationships
avoidant people only caring about themselves
avoidant people never experiencing anxiety in their relationships
avoidant people being unable to change

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