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Nov 2023
1h 10m

Blended Families (Guest: Naja Hall)

LATERRAS R. WHITFIELD
About this episode

Are blended family conflicts unavoidable? Naja Hall joins Laterras to offer hope in the storm. After detailing how she fell in love fast with a divorced dad of three, Naja unpacks the mental health impacts and anxiety triggering events stemming from high conflict with her husband's ex. From boundary setting tips to a revelatory distinction between child-centered marriages and divorces, Naja provides vulnerable testimony and hard-won wisdom so others might walk an easier path. Ultimately Naja issues a gentle challenge—can we break cycles of generational trauma and instead choose generational healing? The possibility of blossoming in the ashes exists, but we must commit to do the work.

 

[00:00 - 07:37] - The challenges and importance of amicable co-parenting

[07:37 - 15:22] - How Naja and her husband met 

[15:22 - 20:18] - Early relationship challenges around blended family dynamics

[20:18 - 34:00] - An incident revealing the severity of conflicts

[34:00 - 37:09] - Coping with anxiety from conflict 

[37:09 - 41:23] - Establishing personal boundaries 

[41:23 - 50:31] - Perspectives on causes of conflict

[50:31 - 01:03:29] - Tips for mitigating blended family conflicts 

[01:03:29 - 01:10:20] - Final Thoughts & Wrap Up

 

 

Key Quote:

"I've seen 0% of child centered marriages work. I've seen 100% of child centered divorce divorces work." - Naja Hall

 

Connect with Naja:

Naja Hall IG - https://www.instagram.com/thenajahall/

Blended and Black - https://www.blendedandblack.com/

VIP Stepmom - https://www.vipstepmom.com/


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