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Mar 2024
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174. Retroactive jealousy

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Feeling jealous over our partners past can feel highly irrational, but its still a feeling many of us have and contributes to a lot of obsessive and unhealthy behaviours like stalking their exes, asking intrusive questions, starting arguments in hopes of getting the reassurance we need. In today's episode, we talk about the psychology of retroactive jealousy, including its origins and how to move past your jealous feelings. We will talk about: 

  • How past relationships and trauma create jealousy
  • Overthinking and anxiety 
  • Rejection sensitivity 
  • Self sabotage 
  • Interrupting mental compulsions 

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