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Aug 2022
56m 53s

Jealousy and Competition

Anna Toonk
About this episode

We know that if we want to go far, we need to go together, and yet many of us struggle with feelings of jealousy, rivalry, and competition. 

Anna has a relatively healthy relationship with jealousy in that she can admit when she feels it, but she doesn't personalize it. Same goes for when other people are jealous of her一she’s become more aware of it, but simultaneously more open to understanding where their emotions stem from. When it comes to competition, though, Anna has noticed that she can lead herself astray because she was so focused on winning. 

Nina has a pretty similar experience with jealousy and competition. When those feelings come up, she tries to dig deeper on what she actually wants and how she can make it happen in her life. She and Anna agree that social media has completely changed the nature of competition. All of the sudden, we’re up against people who we don’t know, and so much of our brain space is consumed by people who don’t even know we exist. 

Listen in to hear Anna and Nina’s conversation unpacking the spectrum of jealousy and competition. 

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Topics Covered:

  • How Anna and Nina work through feelings of jealousy and competition 
  • Learning to define and measure success for yourself 
  • The toxic nature of gossiping and shit-talking 
  • Confronting the fear of being perceived as too much, but also not enough 
  • The lack of celebration for uniqueness
  • Recognizing when your desire to win takes over your current peace and happiness 

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