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Jan 2024
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#54 - Jealous About Your Partner's Past?...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

Have you ever been jealous (or extremely jealous) of your partner’s past? Perhaps you’ve ruminated on their ex’s, asked them questions about their past, or felt like you can’t compare to people they’ve dated or been with intimately.

This experience is a little something called retroactive jealousy (RJ), and I’m excited to bring on Eva Thompson who helps people overcome retroactive jealousy and get rid of intrusive thoughts and mental movies about their partners past.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Eva’s personal experience with ROCD and retroactive jealously
  • what retroactive jealousy looks and sounds like in a relationship
  • the reasons why someone experiences RJ
  • why ROCD and RJ feel so real
  • what to do about RJ, how to turn it around

…and more.

To dive deeper into Eva’s work, check out the below:

Website:

https://overcomingrelationshipanxiety.com/

One on one sessions:

https://calendly.com/overcomingrelationshipanxiety/45min

Additional resources:

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