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Apr 2023
57m 18s

SOS I Keep Arguing with My Partner

Alex Cooper
About this episode

Everyone argues with their partner, it’s inevitable. But, many of us are getting it wrong…small issues turn into massive fights, we hold grudges, refuse to apologize, get defensive and say things we regret. Clinical Psychologist and relationship expert Nancy Dreyfus is here to teach how we can turn unproductive arguments into moments of connection. Alex and Nancy discuss the common mistakes couples make when arguing and provide tangible strategies to implement during conflict. Nancy addresses why apologies don’t always land, when it’s okay to walk away from an argument, how to figure out the root of the conflict and more.

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