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Jan 2024
17m 46s

Discipline Without Shame

MARK GREGSTON
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How parents respond to their teens' mistakes and missteps plays a significant role in the length of time kids spend in darkness and the type of relationship parents have with them. While guilt can serve as a healthy indicator of wrongdoing, shame can inflict deep emotional wounds that may hinder a teen's personal growth and development. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the difference between the two, emphasizing the need for parents to be intentional in their approach as they enforce consequences. Listen now!

For more inspiration and encouragement, check out Mark's newest devotional, "Daily Hope For Families," at dailyhopeforfamilies.com

Parenting Today's Teens is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

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