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Sep 2022
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#304: 6 Common Areas of Parental Guilt &...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
About this episode

It seems like guilt in parenting is just par for the course. We come into this journey with so many expectations, hopes, and goals about the way we will parent, but when the reality of day-to-day parenting sets in, we often feel we are falling way short on so many fronts. So in this episode I'm here to help you more realistically assess your expectations and confront your guilt in the 6 most common areas parents experience guilt. In addition, I cover two major decisions parents make that are often cause for big guilt and the realities that show how children can actually benefit. This episode is a no guilt zone!

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