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Jan 2024
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#200 What to Do When You're Spiraling

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode I talk about what to do if you find yourself completely stuck in a spiral about your breakup. Obsessive thinking unfortunately comes with the territory of a breakup but I wanted to make sure you are equipped with some tools on how to handle days when you feel stuck in the black hole of negative thoughts, wondering about your ex, obsessing about the relationship, beating yourself up, and all the other things we do when we're spiraling.

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