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Jan 2024
28m 4s

Good Inside Parenting is Not Gentle Pare...

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

The Good Inside approach to parenting is many things but gentle is not one of them. Good Inside parenting is sturdy. And sturdy parenting does not need consequences or punishments. In this episode, Dr. Becky hears situations from several parents where they aren't sure how to be the sturdy pilots their children need them to be.

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