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Jan 2024
18m 17s

5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissist...

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.

In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.” 


Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.


Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.


Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.


Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:


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Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership

Happy, healthy, safe new year!

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