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Dec 2023
32m 18s

The Science of Relationships: This Is Ki...

Ali Abdaal
About this episode

We tend to think that love and relationships occur naturally - you can't work on them or improve them because love is something outside of our control. But the truth is more scientific than that. It turns out that we can actually have a big impact on how our relationships work, and whether or not they fail. By being more considerate of our partners, and really investing in quality time together, we can build bonds that last a lifetime. In this bonus episode of Deep Dive, Drs John and Julie Gottman, world renowned relationship experts, talk you through some of the things you can do to make your relationship truly happy and fulfilling, and the red flags to look out for which could indicate future trouble. All of their advice is super actionable and I've found it very useful in my own relationship - enjoy!

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BONUS EPISODE
(00:00) Intro
(01:25) Common relationship mistakes
(08:30) Why relationships fail
(15:39) How to cool down from conflict
(20:30) Tips for strengthening your relationship

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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Science Behind Why Relationships Last Or Fail - Drs John & Julie Gottman
How To Not Die Alone by Dr Logan Ury
8 Dates by Drs John and Julie Gottman
The Seven-Day Love Prescription by Drs John and Julie Gottman 


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