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May 2025
1h 23m

296: 7 Secrets Of Making Relationships L...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode
Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you’re in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last.

In this episode:
  • Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last.

  • The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.

  • The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early.

  • How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other wants closeness.

  • Relationship “hacks” you’ve never heard of (including love mapping and emotional buttons).

  • Why “perfect” couples still argue—and how to argue better.
  • The Michelangelo Effect: how great couples help each other grow.
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