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May 2024
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How to Keep the Spark Alive: Secrets fro...

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What makes love last decades instead of years? After studying thousands of couples, Drs. Julie and John Gottman discovered what separates the masters from the disasters.


Learn their research-backed secrets, like the 5:1 magic ratio, bids for connection, and the 4 horsemen to avoid. It's all here - including insights from their book, Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.


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