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Dec 2023
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10: Heal your attachment style, heal you...

Healing with Han
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Learning about attachment styles gave me so much relief! This episode explains the behaviour driven by anxious and avoidant attachment, the negative cycle we get caught in with our avoidant partners, and how to heal!

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