In this weeks episode, I do a deep dive into the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (aka Disorganized or Anxious-Avoidant Attachment) and share my personal story of how I developed a Fearful Avoidant Attachment and my journey to security.
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Apr 21
Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need
Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships?In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost i ... Show More
15m 43s
Mar 29
The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead
In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection ... Show More
36m 39s
Mar 20
The Attachment Rollercoaster: How to Feel Without Losing Control
In this episode, we explore why love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of intense highs and painful lows. You’ll learn how different attachment styles shape your reactions in relationships and, more importantly, how to stay grounded, self-regulate, and feel deeply wit ... Show More
15m 38s
Mar 2025
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
<p>In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.</p><p>It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (of ... Show More
26m 39s
Jul 2024
Understanding Anxious Avoidant Attachment in Relationships
<p>In this video, I delve into the complexities of the anxious-avoidant attachment style in relationships, breaking it down into simple terms to help you better understand. </p>
<p>Learn about the dynamics, challenges, and ways to navigate this unique attachment style to cultivat ... Show More
8m 15s
Jun 2025
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
<p>While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate w ... Show More
12m 15s
Oct 2025
Why Avoidant Men Struggle to Love (and How to Fix It)
<p>Why do avoidant men struggle so much with love, vulnerability, and connection? </p>
<p>In this video, we break down how avoidant attachment forms, why it creates barriers in relationships, and what can actually be done to move forward.</p>
<p>Topics Covered:
👉 What is attach ... Show More
50m 58s