In this weeks episode, I do a deep dive into the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (aka Disorganized or Anxious-Avoidant Attachment) and share my personal story of how I developed a Fearful Avoidant Attachment and my journey to security.
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Oct 4
Passive vs. Rigid Anxious Attacher: Two Faces of Anxious Attachment
Not all anxious attachers look the same. In this episode, I explore the Passive Anxious Attacher, who protects against loss by shrinking back, and the Rigid Anxious Attacher, who holds on tightly to feel secure. You’ll learn how to tell the difference, why both stem from the same ... Show More
17m 46s
Sep 28
Passive vs. Rigid Avoidant Attacher: Two Faces of Avoidant Attachment
Not all avoidants look the same. In this episode, I break down the two common ways avoidant attachment shows up in relationships: the Passive Avoidant, who protects themselves by shrinking back, and the Rigid Avoidant, who protects themselves through control and high standards. Y ... Show More
17m 56s
Sep 5
What Does Relationship Compatibility Really Mean?
In this episode of Let’s Talk Attachments, we dive into what compatibility in relationships really means—and why it matters so much more than chemistry alone. I’ll break down how to recognize true alignment in core values, lifestyle choices, emotional needs, and long-term goals, ... Show More
29m 10s
Mar 2025
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those ... Show More
26m 39s
Jul 2024
Understanding Anxious Avoidant Attachment in Relationships
In this video, I delve into the complexities of the anxious-avoidant attachment style in relationships, breaking it down into simple terms to help you better understand. Learn about the dynamics, challenges, and ways to navigate this unique attachment style to cultivate healthier ... Show More
8m 15s
Sep 2024
#155: Fearful Avoidant and Anxious Attachment: Key Similarities & Differences
In today's episode, we're diving into fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment and how it differs from anxious attachment.
We’ll explore how both types are driven by a fear of abandonment and intense emotions, yet differ in their approaches to intimacy, conflict ... Show More
22m 14s
Jun 2025
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate with ... Show More
12m 15s
Feb 2025
#177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxious Attachment
Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media ca ... Show More
23m 22s