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Nov 2023
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#121: What is Emotional Availability?

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional availability. Emotional availability is one of those terms that is thrown around a lot on social media - and it seems like everybody is on the lookout for the "emotionally unavailable" people that are to be avoided at all costs. But as always, I think it's important to approach these conversations with nuance and curiosity, before slapping labels on others and declaring them to be the problem. As we discuss in this episode, our focus on others' emotional unavailability can often mask the parts of us that are hiding behind inauthenticity.

We cover:

  • what does emotional availability (and unavailability) actually mean
  • why we might be attracted to unavailability in others
  • how emotional unavailability can manifest differently for anxious vs avoidant people
  • how our own unavailability might be impacting our dating patterns

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