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Nov 2023
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147. The psychology of the eldest daught...

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Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter. 

In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around: 

  • Birth order theory
  • Parentification 
  • The mental load 
  • Friendships between first borns and last borns
  • Delayed teenage rebellion 
  • Role modelling theory 
  • Daughtering 

We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now. 

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