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Nov 2023
1h 16m

Ep 47: Mismatched Libidos, Mutual Mastur...

Meg and Jacob O'Neill
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One of the biggest challenges inside longterm partnerships… ‘Mismatched libidos’. When one partner feels like they could have sex ALL THE TIME! And the other… well, feels like sex is a bit of a chore. 

Meg & Jacob dive deep into how to navigate differing sex drives in relationship & why it can actually be a portal to deeper intimacy & connection. 

In this episode we explore… 

  • How health & hormones directly affects libido 
  • Why Meg doesn’t like the term ‘mismatched libidos’ 
  • The common pattern of ‘shaming’ our partner for their high/ low libido 
  • The power of curiosity when navigating differing sexual desire 
  • The truth about a woman’s libido & desire 
  • How lack of safety & attunement locks up a woman’s libido & desire 
  • Men - Are you creating a safe environment for her to tap into her sexual desire? 
  • How taking sex off the table can lead to MORE SEX!!! 
  • The first time Meg & Jacob mutually masturbated 

 And much, much more! 

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