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Sep 10
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Episode 119: Why Men Matter & The Gather...

Meg and Jacob O'Neill
About this episode

“Every man deserves a place to unravel, to be witnessed, and to remember who he is.”


In this episode we go straight into the heart of The Gathering of Men, the four-day immersion that has become a fire in the belly of men’s work in Australia. 200 men, fathers and sons, elders and young ones, leaders from across the country… all circling up to wrestle, to sing, to drum, to weep, to celebrate, and to remember what it really means to be a man.

Jacob shares what fatherhood stripped from him, how it forced him into deeper responsibility, and why suffering through life isn’t noble, it’s avoidance. He talks about the three pillars of the Gathering… challenge, celebration, and camaraderie, and why without brotherhood, none of it sticks.

If you’ve ever wondered what happens when men are willing to be raw, messy, creative, and real together, this is it.

🔥Here’s What We Dive Into:

  • “Suffering isn’t strength. The pain of becoming is.”
  • “Every boy deserves more than one father—he deserves a community of uncles.”
  • Why rites of passage matter (and what happens when men never get them)
  • How poetry, music, wrestling, and storytelling all belong at TGOM
  • The three pillars: challenge, celebration, and brotherhood
  • What happens when men stop proving themselves and start remembering themselves
  • Why TGOM is a prayer, not a product

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