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Jun 2023
37m 49s

Episode 66: Sex, Intimacy & Orgasms: Why...

Valerie Jones
About this episode

Sexual dynamics between men and women are complicated! It can seem like one big cosmic joke when we try to figure out how to have a healthy, thriving, mutually satisfying sex life. 

If you're in a heterosexual relationship, or you would like to be, this episode is going to change your life! 

I talk with Irene Fehr about why so many women believe they are 'broken' and need to 'fix themselves' when it comes to sex, and what is really going on in the bedroom that leads to a breakdown in intimacy. 

We get into all the juicy details, including: 

  • why so many women believe they are 'the problem'
  • what to do when you have no time or energy for sex 
  • what the key nutrients are for cultivating intimacy 
  • why being selfish leads to satisfying sex! 

Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, SEP, is a Sex & Intimacy Coach who helps couples make love and sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into a sexless one. Irene's views on women's libido and intimacy have been featured in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Refinery29, ScaryMommy, Elite Daily and Bustle. She is no stranger to her client's issues, having recovered from the all-too-common story of 'happy marriage turned sexless' when she lost her libido - all before turning 30. 

https://www.irenefehr.com

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