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Nov 2023
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141. How to get over someone you can't s...

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We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss: 

  • The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure 
  • The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past
  • The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited 
  • Anxious attachment and overthinking 
  • The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people 
  • How to emotionally detach 
  • The science of no-contact
  • 10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about 

If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about. 

 

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