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Jul 2025
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Ep. 300 - Why do I still think about my ...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
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You've been working on your nervous system and taking better care of yourself, but your ex is still living rent-free in your head 24/7. Every song reminds you of them, you're having fake arguments in the shower, and you keep replaying memories on repeat. You wonder if there's something seriously wrong with you. Why can't you just stop thinking about someone who clearly doesn't want you? In this episode, I'm revealing the real reason your brain is obsessed with your ex and the exact approach I'd use now to rebuild the most important relationship of your life. If you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own mind, this episode shows you the way out.

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