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Oct 2023
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#114: Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Q&A ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're answering your questions about how we've navigated aspects of the anxious-avoidant dynamic in our relationship. 

We talk about:

  • doing "the work" individually and as a couple
  • how we've built trust and safety over time
  • how we manage conflict and have hard conversations

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