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Dec 2023
27m 25s

How I Navigate the Distance in My Relati...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
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In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My ... Show More
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