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Sep 2023
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126. How to heal a fear of abandonment

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Many of us battle with a deep-rooted fear and anxiety that those we love will leave us. Maybe we have been hurt in a past relationship, or witnessed a messy divorce or the passing of ones we love and we have unconsciously learned to associated vulnerability, intimacy and love with pain and disappointment. This fear of abandonment can cause us to sabotage otherwise perfectly healthy relationships or to push people away out of an irrational fear they will leave us, only to end up just as alone as if they had. In this episode we explore the following: 

  • What is the root cause of the fear of abandonment?
  • The different types of abandonment reactions - the saboteur, the clingy, the avoidant and the serial dater 
  • Links to codependency and emotional unavailability 
  • How to heal our abandonment wounds 

We all want to accept others into out lives and trust the people we love will stay by our side so if you're struggling with an irrational fear or anxiety of abandonment, listen now. 

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