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Aug 2023
18m 45s

#97: How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts O...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure. 

We'll cover:

  • how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationship
  • different forms of abandonment (physical, emotional)
  • relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead to
  • the link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment

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