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May 2023
52m 20s

#78: Understanding Your Origin Wounds wi...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed marriage & family therapist, creator of the hugely successful @mindfulmft Instagram account, and recently published author of The Origins of You. Vienna has the gift of conveying complex and emotionally dense topics with such nuance. Today she joins me on the podcast to talk about origin wounds and how they impact patterns in relationships as adults and how we can honour our pain and experience.

We'll cover:

  • What happens when you hide behind a façade of being "fine"
  • The five origin wounds (worthiness, belonging, trust, safety and prioritisation)
  • Why we might struggle to explore our family dynamics
  • What happens when we avoid being in pain properly 
  • Finding peace with the pain

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