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May 2023
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62: Why a lack of commitment is not free...

NATALIE KENNEDY
About this episode

In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest hidden myths I see in society: that commitment = lack of freedom. If you struggle with commitment, I will share with you some reasons why you might be struggling, as well as some shifts that have helped me become more confident in committing with my whole heart and building a life I love and deserve.

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3:28 Why my partner found it hard to commit at first

7:00 I did pick a partner who was serious about me

8:45 Wanting to move forward for societal reasons

10:35 Moving forward will not change your relationship issues

11:45 Common fears about commitment

13:25 How judging others can lead to fears of certain outcomes in your relationship

16:19 The stakes of never committing

19:00 The importance of having a vision for your own life

20:00 The benefits of wanting what you have while still desiring what you don’t have

22:50 My desire to create a legacy for myself

25:55 Cleanin up your side of the street

28:20 Regardless of how we feel, we know we have a life to build together

30:50 None of us are missing out

32:24 How making a commitment can grant you more freedom

35:15 You don’t need to have the certainty to proceed

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