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Aug 2025
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Ep. 301 - How do I get closure from my e...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

You keep waiting for your ex to give you the closure you need, an explanation, an apology, some sign that what you had mattered to them. In this episode, I'm revealing the twisted psychology behind why begging for closure actually pushes your ex further away, and the counterintuitive approach that either gets you your ex back or something infinitely better. Plus, I'm announcing something I've never offered before that's going to change how you approach getting over your ex completely. If you're tired of waiting for someone else to set you free, this episode flips everything you think you know about closure upside down.


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