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Mar 2023
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103. Breaking Intergenerational Cycles w...

Amber Dalsin
About this episode

Have you ever found yourself behaving in the same way as one of your parents? Or Maybe you find yourself acting as if you are back in your family home even though you are a grown adult who has created a life of their own?

If you relate to either of these, this podcast is all about breaking cycles and living with intention.


In this podcast we discuss:

- What cycles are

- How to become aware of your patterns

- How to collaborate with your partner

- How agreements can help you and your partner make changes

- How win-win solutions can help

- Why expressing needs are important


Kara’s website: https://www.karahoppe.com/

Baby Bomb Book: https://www.karahoppe.com/the-book


Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, feminist, and mother. She has spent more than a decade as an inclusive therapist working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe also offers virtual retreats for parents and expectant couples, based on her book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, a 2021 INDIES finalist. Her work has been featured in The Atlantic, Parents Magazine, Fatherly, and YourTango, among other publications. She lives with her husband and two children in Pioneertown, CA, and sees clients in private practice via telehealth.



This podcast is for informational purposes only.

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