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Feb 2023
28m 22s

Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let's talk about it! For today’s show, I am joined once again by Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, as well as Xander Marin, a self-described "regular dude" who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. They co-host the "Pillow Talks" podcast and co-authored the new book, Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Some of the topics we discuss include:
  • Why does initiating sex feel so hard for people?
  • What should you do (and what should you avoid) when it comes to sexual initiation?
  • What are the six different sexual initiation styles?
  • How can individuals navigate sex when they have different initiation styles?
  • How do you say "no" to a partner's initiation attempt without hurting their feelings?
  • What are some things you can do to encourage your partner to initiate sex more?
Make sure to check out Vanessa and Xander's website, and visit their Youtube, Instagram, and TikTok to learn more. And be sure to get a copy of Sex Talks! Thank you to our sponsors! The Modern Sex Therapy Institutes is one of the leading sex therapy certification programs in the world, meets all AASECT certification requirements, has 12 other specialty certifications, and a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology. Visit modernsextherapyinstitutes.com to learn more. Put a "ring" on it with FirmTech's Performance Ring, which is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  ***

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