A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let’s talk about it!
For today’s show, I am joined once again by Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, as wel ... Show More
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Episode 522: What People’s Sex Diaries Reveal About Modern Intimacy
Most of us only get small glimpses into other people’s sex lives, which can make our own experiences feel more unusual than they really are. But what happens when you spend years hearing the unfiltered truth about people’s desires, insecurities, relationships, and intimate experi ... Show More
30m 24s
Jul 23
Episode 521: An Intimacy Coordinator’s Tips For Better Sex
In the previous episode, we went behind the scenes of film and television to explore how intimacy coordinators help create authentic, safe, and compelling intimate scenes. But the lessons from this profession extend far beyond Hollywood. In this episode, we’re bringing those less ... Show More
32m 23s
Jul 21
Episode 520: How Sex Scenes Really Get Made
Sex scenes have been part of film and television for decades, but the way they’re created has changed dramatically. Today, many productions rely on intimacy coordinators to help choreograph intimate scenes while fostering safety, collaboration, and creativity on set. In this epis ... Show More
34m 11s
Apr 2023
#68: How to Talk About Sex with Vanessa & Xander Marin
<p>In today's episode, I'm joined by Vanessa & Xander Marin. <b> </b>She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he’s a regular dude, and they recently co-authored their first book<a href='http://www.sextalksbook.com'> <em>Sex Talks: The Five Conversations Th ... Show More
50m 31s
Mar 2025
Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist
<p>In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. </p><p>If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you. </p><p>Here to ... Show More
1h 20m
Jun 2020
255: Common Sexual Challenges And How To Overcome Them
Having sex is not as straight forward as it may seem, especially in long term relationships. Our personal sexual history, combined with another individual's personal sexual history, can make things quite complicated! Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the sexual chal ... Show More
44m 50s
May 2025
EP437 - Tell Me What You Want: Tips for Talking About Sex
Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication.
In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should ... Show More
43m 47s
Jun 2025
Let’s Talk About Sex! Shame-Free Tools for Better Intimacy and Communication with Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is here to take the intimidation out of intimacy. With 20 years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and millions of views online, Vanessa and her husband, Xander, have become a go-to couple for real, shame-free conversations about sex. In this ... Show More
50m 37s
Apr 2023
How to Initiate (If You Never Do)
There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiati ... Show More
38m 13s