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Feb 2023
28m 22s

Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let’s talk about it! For today’s show, I am joined once again by Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, as wel ... Show More
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