As I sit here in the final throes of editing my upcoming book, I’m worried what you’ll think if I don’t give you another podcast this week. That’s when I thought this is the perfect episode to re-release …
Why do other people’s opinions about you matter so much to you? Or, well, to us? (Because you’re not the only one.) Why do we need to define our self-image through others people’s eyes? Someone says you have a big nose, and suddenly, “I have a big nose.” Someone calls you stupid, and suddenly, “I’m stupid.”
You’ve lived with yourself your entire life. Shouldn’t you know who you are? Why do you let others define you?
This stops, today.
In this episode, you will learn the three science-backed reasons why other people’s opinions about you seem to matter so much. And you will get three tools to disarm these opinionated weapons people toss at you. (Don’t worry, NONE of these tools say, “Just stop caring about what others say.”)
Have you ever heard that Aristotle quote, “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
You can do that. It will keep you safe. Maybe. But, if you do, I’ll give you the for-sure part right now …
If you don’t know who you are - here are two guarantees:
1. Someone’s gonna tell ya.
And,
2. That won’t be who you are or what you want to be.
IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:
• 3 science-backed reasons why you put so much value into what other people say.• 3 ways to change that.• Why you should NOT develop a thick skin - and how to protect yourself instead.• The important difference between self-esteem and self-worth.• How to understand your cognitive distortions (faulty wiring).• At least a couple of embarrassing (or embraceable) stories about me.• You are not the only one.
And if you feel like you don’t fit in, remember this: Maybe that’s because you’re not meant to fit in. You’re meant to stand out! You are loved.
Back next week!
~ dahlia xo
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