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Sep 18
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Let Them: How to Take Back Your Peace an...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

If you’re tired of managing everyone’s moods, overexplaining yourself, fixing issues that aren’t yours to fix, or proving your worth to people who don’t see it, this episode is your reset. 

In this solo episode, Mel unpacks the life-changing tool that millions of people around the world can’t stop talking about:

The Let Them Theory.

For the first time on the podcast since the book launched, Mel discusses Let Them, the global movement, and new ways to apply the theory.

Whether you’ve read the book or are new to this tool, today’s episode will give you perspectives and insights about The Let Them Theory that have never been shared before.

The Let Them Theory is here to remind you that the problem isn’t you; it’s the power you give to other people. 

It has become a cultural sensation and a movement built on one idea: 

When you stop trying to control other people, you finally take control of yourself.  

In this conversation, Mel shares: 

-4 things you’re not responsible for 

-Why trying to make everyone else happy is a recipe for frustration 

-The main reason some people never understand you – and why that’s OK 

-The one-sentence way to set a powerful boundary 

-Why the only person you need to prove yourself to is you 

If you’ve spent too long chasing approval or taking on responsibility for everyone else, it’s time to protect your time and energy. 

It’s time to stop letting other people hold you back.  

It’s time to focus on what you can control: YOU.

Click here to get tickets to Mel's live tour, Let Them Tour 2026.

Get a copy of the The Let Them Theory book, which has sold 6.5 million copies.

If you liked the episode, check out this one next: 5 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself Right Now

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