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Jan 2024
46m 28s

Why We Love Difficult People

Violet Benson
About this episode

In the 3rd installation of Benson Bootcamp, Violet covers a topic that we often avoid. Why do we love difficult people? This discussion is difficult because it often forces us to look inwardly, and see what unresolved issues we have - that are allowing us to believe that allowing these people to stay in our lives is okay. But it’s okay Besties, we’re gonna get through it together, because we’ve ALL been there. 

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet starts off with the reasons why we likely fall for the wrong person, armed with a huge ego and a wounded inner child he never knew existed within him. That guy who gives you mixed signals and then leaves you hanging when they have their fun. While difficult people can be frustrating and draining, they also have the ability to help us become better versions of ourselves. And this is possible when we start to love ourselves a little more, see our own value, understand what we truly desire in life. Bestie, it’s finally time to drop that toxic relationship, friendship, or whatever it is. Do it NOW - you will only thank yourself later.



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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 02:38 Why do we love difficult people?
  • 05:07 When we feel the lack of spark
  • 08:27 The reasons why we’re attracted to the wrong person
  • 11:59 Guys with daddy issues
  • 18:56 The second boyfriend: a toxic guy
  • 25:39 I thought love had to be achieved
  • 28:00 Daddy Issues
  • 35:06 Start loving yourself


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