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Jun 2024

37m 32s

203. Why do we feel so unloveable?

About this episode

Struggling with our self worth can often impact how deserving we feel of love. This sense that we may be 'unloveable' causes us to miss out on healthy, fulfilling relationships, self sabotage and stay with people who don't deserve us. In today's episode, we discuss:

The origins of why we feel unworthy of love
Childhood wounds
Early romantic scripts and teen romance
Repeated rejection and shame
The consequences of feeling unloveable
Repetition of toxic relationships
How to restore or rediscover your sense of self worth and self love

And so much more. Listen now!

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