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Jun 2024
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203. Why do we feel unloveable?

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Struggling with our self worth can often impact how deserving we feel of love. This sense that we may be 'unloveable' causes us to miss out on healthy, fulfilling relationships, self sabotage and stay with people who don't deserve us. In today's episode, we discuss: 

  • The origins of why we feel unworthy of love
  • Childhood wounds 
  • Early romantic scripts and teen romance 
  • Repeated rejection and shame
  • The consequences of feeling unloveable 
  • Repetition of toxic relationships
  • How to restore or rediscover your sense of self worth and self love 

And so much more. Listen now! 

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