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Apr 2024
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Myths Of Love, Sex, Dating, And Relation...

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How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model.



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This episode was part one of our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. 


Today's guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine's Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. 


Myisha Battle is the author of the book, "This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between." She also hosts the podcast How's Your Sex Life? Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. 


Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. 


In this episode we talk about:

  • Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership
  • The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways
  • Understanding men's and women's cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships
  • The myth of finding "the one"
  • The orgasm gap
  • Bromance
  • And if you're looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier



Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive 



Where to find Myisha Battle online: 

Website: www.myishabattle.com/

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