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Jan 2023
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WHY ARE WE HOARDING KINDNESS?

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About this episode

Why are we hoarding kindness? Especially when kindness brings you luck. Yes, there’s a science to kindness - and very small acts of it can bring you luck. And today, I will prove this to you.

PART 1 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉ

You see, luck doesn’t really come from manifestation, it comes from appreciation and gratitude … to others.

While this may seem like a rudimentary lesson, think about how much you don’t think about giving away your kindness.

You know that sweet-as-pie cashier at the grocery store who always greets you with a smile? Did you give them a commendation? You know that customer service worker who went out of their way to give you a better experience? Did you give them a commendation? But you don’t have time, right?

Well, what about that video you watched online that made you laugh or made you think or made you feel something at a time when it’s been hard to feel … Did you give that person a commendation - with a like? A like that takes less than a nanosecond to give.

PART 2 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉ

WHY ARE YOU HOARDING YOUR KINDNESS? WHY ARE WE HOARDING KINDNESS?

So here’s the plan for this episode: I will share a real-life, real-time, successful experiment I did on kindness - a decade-long experiment. But I won’t just tell you about this, you will get to re-live a piece of it (calm down - not all 10 years)  and experience it with me.

Most importantly, I will tell you right now, the best way to head into the new year: It’s not about weight loss. It’s not about saving more money. It’s not about any resolutions.

IN EPISODE 30 YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why you have the power to create your own luck.• How a $3-of-kindness turned into too many dollars to count. • The science behind why giving (even a smile) gets you even more in return.• You are not alone.

Oh, and next week … you’ll meet someone who is disrupting the world of mental health more than most anyone on the planet.

So, please make sure to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Because you won’t want to miss Dr. Jessica Taylor - especially if you’ve been diagnosed with any mental health “disorder.”

~dahlia xo

P.S. By popular demand, the full video conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté is coming soon to my YouTube channel. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it! (The audio of that conversation can still be found in the podcast archives: Dr. Gabor Maté - Part 1 and Part 2.)

LINKS

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