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Dec 2022
47m 26s

Why You Don’t Change (But How You Still ...

THE ART OF MANLINESS
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Anyone who’s ever tried to lose weight, curb their temper, quit smoking, or alter any other habit in their lives knows that personal change is hard. Really hard.Most self-help books out there treat people like machines, blitzing past this difficulty and offering mechanical 5-step formulas for changing your life.My guest today says such simplified solutions h ... Show More
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