On this episode, I talk about the dependent personality. Those with this personality trait rely on external means to sooth, numb, and distract themselves from that internal pain. Then what happens when those means break? For me, I was sent into chaos. Anxiety spiked and I was a mess. How can we move on from this dependent state? What is being so dependent ha ... Show More
Apr 22
350 | How Anxiety Circuits Hijack Your Brain | And What To Do
On today's episode, I break down the brain circuits behind anxiety—the amygdala, hippocampus, prefrontal cortex, and the HPA axis—and show how they create panic, overgeneralization, and sleeplessness. I then explain, in plain terms, why anxiety feels overwhelming and how chronic ... Show More
26m 33s
Apr 15
349 | Healing Trauma and Building A Better Life | Dana Hargus
On todays episode, I speak with Dana Hargus founder of Restore of Ada and we discuss trauma-informed approaches to calm the nervous system, biofeedback strategies, and rebuilding resilience after chronic stress. Dana explains how trauma can affect anyone and why treating the body ... Show More
49m 34s
Apr 8
348 | Why You Can’t Stop Checking Your Body (Health Anxiety Explained)
Today, I break down why people with health anxiety obsessively check their bodies, how that checking fuels a loop of fear and hyper-awareness, and how intolerance of uncertainty and misinterpreting normal sensations keep the cycle going. I outline clear, practical steps to break ... Show More
35m 1s
Sep 2020
70. Anxiety, C-PTSD, & Codependency
<p>Hey sis!<br /> <br /> In this episode, we are talking about something heavy & serious. We are talking about C-PTSD & anxiety and how it may show up in people who are codependent. We talk about how C-PTSD how can affect your sense of self, your identity, and your sense of well- ... Show More
21m 48s
Jul 2025
How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies
What if some of your anxious attachment behaviors are actually rooted in…selfishness? Not because you don’t care—but because fear can make everything feel urgent and all about you.In this episode, I share my own hard truths, the rigid expectations I used to set, and how healing s ... Show More
9m 14s
Sep 2019
Inner Work 065: Surrendering Control & Hypervigilance
Are you a bit of a control freak? Do you often feel "on edge" or as though you have to scan the horizon for possible danger? Yup, me too! In this episode, I discuss how can we move beyond the egoic need to control our environment, our own behavior, and others' reactions to us. I ... Show More
43m 10s
Sep 2024
Codependency Series: Codependent Tendencies (Part 1)
In the second episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa discusses various codependent tendencies and behaviors. She provides a laundry list of codependent tendencies, explains how these behaviors stem from a fear of losing attachment and a lack of trust in oneself and others, a ... Show More
26m 11s
Jan 2021
Borderline Personality Disorder: Escaping Reality
In this episode, I talk about the BPD escape clause or tendency to escape reality when life gets to be too much, too intense, too overwhelming. I also offer an antidote to the escape clause. In the Q & A, I talk about exercise and how to experience physical discomfort without pan ... Show More
22m 18s