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Apr 2021
30m 40s

037: Why Children Break Our Boundaries &...

Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach
About this episode

When we feel frustrated and exhausted with our child's behavior, we may be attributing our feelings to the way our child behaves. But why do our children behave the way they do?

 

Often an answer to that is poor boundaries. 

 

Lack of good boundaries in a Parent-Child relationship can lead to frustration, burnout, and even resentment. Very often we tend to attribute poor boundaries in that relationship to our children, and when we do that, it makes us feel powerless to change our dynamic. 

 

And yes, it's true, children have a poor sense of boundaries. Why? Because they were born without them. At the same time, it is our responsibility to show where our boundaries are and teach our children to respect them. 

 

When we do that -- when we protect our boundaries -- we accomplish two things: 

  • We feel more empowered, grounded, and in control
  • We help our child develop a Sense of Self

 

 

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Host: Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach

With questions and comments, please reach out on Instagram @theparentingpresence. Additional info is available at theparentingpresence.com

 

 

 

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