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Oct 2022
24m 40s

How Good Sex Will Help Your Relationship...

Impact Theory
About this episode

More than half of all teenagers are totally uncomfortable discussing the same thing that nearly a third of adults are uncomfortable discussing. Sex! The question that Tom and Lisa tackle today is if waiting to have sex before marriage is the right thing. Yes, there are religious and cultural beliefs that will provide the answer and wisdom you need should you subscribe to those beliefs, but in this episode Tom and Lisa take a practical perspective about sex before marriage, living together first, and discovering compatibility and a common baseline in one of the most important aspects of your relationship. Their advice for a long-term healthy and happy relationship acknowledges the importance of feeling safe physically and emotionally, but more importantly being open to communicate and discuss sex together.


SHOW NOTES:

Sex Before Marriage | Tom why waiting for marriage to have sex is madness [0:35]

Living Together | Tom explains why living together 1st is a best practice for longevity [1:25]

No Fireworks | Lisa on the disappoint of first sexual experience and missing the fireworks [3:41]

Safe Exploration | Connecting and having safety to physically and emotionally explore [5:28]

Compatibility | Being on the same page, shared electricity, and know your sex flavor [8:05]

Frequency | Having open communication about frequency and feeling neglected [9:02]

Orgasmic | Tom on the neuro chemistry and power orgasm has for antidepressant [11:33]

Fetishes | Important of openly discussing fetishes and having no judgement [13:07]

Growing | Tom shares the value evolving in the sexual relationship and journey together [15:27]

Real Talk | Real time communication Tom’s intention vs. Lisa’s values on “experiment” [16:06]


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