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Aug 2015
56m 35s

Is massive change too good to be true?

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- “There are various stages of transformation, which have an order to them”

The words of Sue Beer, who is an originally trained in psychodynamic psychotherapist, an experienced Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, EFT Founding Master and AAMET Master Trainer of Trainers.

Sue shares how to get started with big change so that you maintain your motivation. She shares how to go from despair to hopeful. She explains the difference between “white knuckling change” (using ongoing will-power) versus true transformation.

She says: We get what we focus on. Beliefs are not truths and they haven’t come out of thin air. They don’t just descend on us. We attach to them usually as a consequence of a decision we make when something happens to us.

These beliefs are not what we really are. But as long as we hold on to them we get what we're expecting. We attract people who kind of confirm and give us evidence that we’re not good enough.

She shares in this interview the one thing you should focus on to make the biggest change that lasts.

QUOTE: "Can we change our identity? YES! Everything that is connected to what we believe is only appearing to be real because we believe it, so we can change it."

Sue's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/sue)

My homepage: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com

Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/

Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________

Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?

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All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.

Warm regards, Seb

 

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