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Jun 2015
48m 21s

The Social Anxiety to Social Confidence ...

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- It’s really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we’re moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we’ve made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it."

The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges. 

Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn’t have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations." 

We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going. 

QUOTE: The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it’s because I on some level have decided “my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me”. When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that’s intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I’m no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else’s definition of success and I’m just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I’m able to respond with so much more grace. 

 

Gene's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________

Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?

Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!

2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course.

3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietys

All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.

Warm regards, Seb

 

 

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