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The Ultimate Comeback Series: What to do at the turning point to have a hockey stick comeback w/ Lindsey Mango

There's a stretch before the comeback even starts that this episode names! The part where you already half-know something's wrong, but you keep it quiet, keep functioning, keep telling yourself it's fine, sometimes for a year or two before the truth actually lands. In this episod ... Show More

43m 34s

Sep 14

Ep. 358 - Why your breakup feels so much worse when you're burnt out, sick, or sleep deprived

Why does your breakup feel SO much worse when you're exhausted, burnt out, sick, or running on barely any sleep? You might see one post from your ex, run into him in public, or have one bad interaction and suddenly you're spiraling—questioning everything, obsessing over what he's ... Show More

18m 29s

Sep 10

The Ultimate Comeback Series: Choosing your comeback vs being forced into one w/ Whitney Uland

Most comeback stories start with something breaking — a breakup, a diagnosis, a rug pulled out from under you. But there's a much quieter, harder version: choosing to walk into a comeback when nothing forced your hand. No crisis giving you permission, no one around you validating ... Show More

45m 34s

Jul 2025

stop romanticizing the people who hurt you ep.77

Sometimes we end up in relationships or friendships with people who hurt us, but whether it’s because of our trauma or rose-colored glasses, we romanticize them instead of seeing them for who they really are. Today we talk about why this happens, what to do, and how to get out of ... Show More

30m 45s

Oct 2025

Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?

Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner's jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to heal ... Show More

45m 22s

Sep 2016

EP #047 Overcoming An Abusive Relationship

Nothing is more damaging to your confidence and self-esteem than being in an emotionally abusive relationship. So often you make excuses for their behavior, think that it is your fault or feel that you can change their ways. In this episode I offer practical techniques so that yo ... Show More

17m 34s

Aug 2022

190 - Friday Fix: 7 Reasons You Allow People to Mistreat You

While you can’t control how other people behave, you can control how you respond to them. If you’ve allowed someone to treat you poorly and you didn’t address their behavior, it’s important to consider why. It may have to do with the other person–like you fear what would happen i ... Show More

10m 43s

May 2023

S3: Break Down Bonus: Learning not to blame yourself for their mistakes (S3E17 Reaction)

[SCROLL FOR CW]-It can be so easy to look back on a relationship with hindsight bias. How many times have we all said, "Oh I should have done this" or "said this" or "done this differently"? The reality is, we're only in control of what we bring to the relationship and we're cert ... Show More

17m 44s

Sep 2024

#236 When You Lose Your Absolute S#%T at Your Ex

In today's solo episode I'm talking about what happens when you given in to those obsessions and don't hold your tongue when it comes to your ex. Whether you called them a dozen times in a row, sent a message you wish you hadn't, said something mean during the breakup, or whateve ... Show More

23m 4s

May 2025

STOP EXPECTING YOU FROM OTHERS

You don't understand the behavior because you would never do it. In today's episode, I dive into the emotional toll of trying to understand people who treat us in ways we'd never treat them. I unpack the frustration and confusion that comes from expecting loyalty, honesty, and em ... Show More

17m 41s

Aug 2024

How to Get Over Narcissists, Cheating, and Heartbreak...the RIGHT Way

<p>When you've been betrayed or hurt by someone, you can often ask yourself, "How did I miss the red flags?". And in this reaction you may end up blaming yourself. Especially if you feel like there's a recurring pattern in the people you've chosen to date so far. So what is the r ... Show More

38m 15s

Aug 2020

Letting Go Of Resentment | E212

Are you holding on to resentment about hurtful things that have happened in the past? Is your partner? In today's episode, we’re talking about how to let go of resentment in your relationship, so that you can both move forward, put the past behind you, and start enjoying each oth ... Show More

46m 4s

Oct 2023

536 - Don't blame yourself for their behavior

<p>In this episode, I talk about NOT making someone's poor behavior about you. I talk about how to view it objectively and to realize that their poor behaviors doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, it means there's something wrong with them.</p><p>Want more? My book "Tha ... Show More

15m 36s

Ep. 160 - I let my ex treat me poorly