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Sep 2022
12m 40s

Ep. 160 - I let my ex treat me poorly

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

The way someone else treats you isn't your responsibility. Oftentimes we get confused about the "ownership" piece of "letting people treat you poorly". Today I demystify this idea of letting someone treat you poorly and what to do with the shame you experience around your past relationship.

In today's episode:

  • Learn what it actually means to let someone treat you poorly
  • Understand what's been holding you back from letting go of the shame and potentially even embarrassment of what you allowed in your life
  • Become proud and clear about your past so that you can let go of shame and move forward
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