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Sep 2022
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181: How To Deal With The Pain Of Not Ge...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

When a relationship ends, or someone stops calling after several dates, do you need to know why?

What does it mean to get “closure” in dating?

As humans we put a lot of emphasis on how things end.

We want answers: “Was it the way I dressed? Is it something about my body? Or something I did that turned you off? Was it too desperate?!”

But what answers are we looking for? And how much brutally honest truth do we really want to hear?

Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson try to figure out whether closure is overrated, what explanation we’re owed when someone leaves, and how we can move on from rejection when it happens.

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