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Aug 2022
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What's the point of the day to day just ...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode
Going about your life shouldn't be a constant stress on your system. Sometimes we let our fears override our values. When that happens, we end up with results we don't want more often than not. I talk about that in today's episode and I also answer a question about how to respond to the emotionally abusive person who may not realize they are being emotionall ... Show More
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